Life Deviations

The music assaulted her ears as she descended into cafe. "Have yourself... a merry little-" the slight breeze of the door closing, a with a deliberate casualness, and a second to reorient. East or west? Which way was the holiday season likely to not to have invaded quite yet? Or did it spread north to south across the island, the direction the sparrows, the only redeemable birds within a 30 block radius, had chosen to flee from its onslaught several days earlier? A more modern looking espresso bar- trying desperately not to be recognizably Swedish, maybe aiming more for a Helsinki, or at worst a Bergen. Generic insert-name-of-underground-indie-band whined in a more subdued fashion from the speakers set acoustically back from the counter. This seemed more acceptable. The holiday season was much more tolerable from the protective barrier of two sets of windows, separated by a cobble stone street and several strolling couples trying to look indifferent to life, their expensive flannel defeating the purpose of their jaunt. To "simply be one with the..." god only knows what, this was normally when she stopped listening. The dimly lit bar seating in the cafe contrasted in a comfortingly cliche way with the opulence of the Soho christmas behind the glass on the opposing street. Clean and minimalist, for what could be more American, it like the tree cautiously draped with a single strand of white lights, lounging like an oscar wilde novel, and the couple who had lingered in front were working to celebrate the holiday in the same fashion: blasse, one too tasteless, the other too tactful to acknowledge it. This made the pangs of home more easy to caffeinate away, one skim latte ounce at a time.

More movement

It's the same office that it's been since October. Fifty dollars a visit to figure things out. Life. To learn what to be curious about. To learn what not to be judgmental of. The same turn to the right at the cinema, across from a smoky bar. Down a flight of stairs, to a room where I try not to see the others that are there. Upstairs to the same third floor office. A comfortable place, the same spot for my coffee in front of the clock on the table. Bag down, jacket off. "How's it going?" the standard greeting. A stenographer pad that someday would make an amazing case study. Successful, but dissatisfied. Unable to let go of things that are painful and damaging. And today was the first day I saw the frustration beam over. An eye roll, a fast apology. Of something she's wanted to say for ages, and something I've spent my time trying to avoid. Since the first time in a different office nearly a year ago. My emotional attachments are only to something hurtful. Sometimes honest, but unclear in waht construction. I am learning, certainly no innocent bystander. Parts of myself I don't like, insecurities that need to be fathomed. But why do I continue to seek out something that now only results in falling apart because I've hurt someone (or feeling self-centered in I'm only concerned about how it affects me), or waiting with anxiety for the next time I fuck up. How do you change those intial, visceral reactions of wanting forgiveness and acceptance. How do you reconcile what in retrospect are often good memories with how painful the arc has actually been? How much self control is it going to take not to pick up the phone- and to dred the person on the other end not answering? Can I be something else? Who else would that new person find- and will there always be this nostalgia for whatever this uncertainty is, this slightly foreboding discomfort?

Transferring these feelings of pain into anger. That was the prediction of where they would go- and acting on them rather than just feeling them deeply. is anger a more suitable emotion, more palateable than being a victim?